Whoa whoa whoa there... We're getting a little deep on the blog this week, aren't we? Well, before we go getting all philosophical, let's just enjoy that picture on the right up there. How chuffed do I look with my frilly freaking socks. And I have two. whole. friends. I must have been... 5 at most when this was taken in Dubai, with my two best friends at the time, and I am looking damn jazzed. My boyfriend likes to call this my 'mushroom face'. I like to point out that my hairstyle is before-its-time 'undone chic'. And a whole twenty one years later, what has changed?

I don't remember a time when being 'pretty' or 'beautiful' wasn't something of a concern to me. It might not have manifested itself in using make up or dying my hair many different colours, but I was always aware that being a 'pretty little girl' was something to be desired. I was also aware of the negative implications of words like 'fat', 'chubby', 'ugly', 'four-eyes'... It seems completely bizarre to me, looking back at this photograph, that I could have been concerned with anything like that. But I know that, probably before this photo was even taken, both children my age, children older than me, and worst of all... adults, had made me feel bad about my appearance, more than once.

So when a certain article emerged from the ugly underbelly of the Internet (The Independent) last week - I want to point out that I'm not linking directly to it as it was such an obvious, desperate cry for attention and click-baiting - I have to say, I was a little surprised. The article was explaining why YouTuber Zoe Sugg wasn't a great role-model for young girls and teenagers, making them obsessed with their looks and practically forcing them into a vicious cycle of mindless product-buying and low self-esteem. I'm here with some disturbing news, Independent readers. That happened a long time before Zoe Sugg.

I remember reading an amazing article, 'How to Talk to Little Girls', written by a woman more deserving of both links and praise than the former contributor mentioned. This piece stayed with me - I showed it to my friends, I told my mum about it... Beauty really was and always has been one of the most valuable currencies women are taught to deal in. So where does that leave us? As a self-proclaimed 'beauty blogger', what would I tell my younger self about this elusive 'beauty' myth?

Perhaps the same thing I try to remind my 26-year-old self every day. That beauty is subjective, that beauty can be found in any small thing, most profoundly and foremost in the acts of kindness we serve ourselves and others with. It isn't something you can buy, it isn't something you can sell to others, and it definitely isn't worth trying to change yourself drastically for. Chances are, you were already halfway there, frilly socks, mushroom haircut and all.

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  1. Lovely post! I read the article about Zoe as well, and I was absolutely appalled. It really just sounded like a personal rant, and not at all appropriate for a news site. They really put a bad name to all beauty bloggers/vloggers essentially, which I just found to be so, so wrong.

    Tasha // shiwashiful.

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    1. I agree with you - I was deeply saddened by the article - not least because it was a female writer, and something about women stomping on other women's success just makes me desperately unhappy. There's enough room for ambition throughout our sex, and whatever form success takes - if you've got it, more power to you! Thanks so much for reading and commenting Tasha :) T xx

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  2. This is such an honest post. You childhood photo made me think of how happy I was as a child when I did not feel obliged to look smart and tidy and pretty all the time. I was a little tomboy and it felt so good. Somtimes I miss this freedom :)

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