... And if you get the reference in that blog title, well done you! You'd be forgiven for not noticing, but there's been a distinct lack of content in these parts over the last week and, whilst I'm not particularly happy about it, it was needed. Last weekend was a super difficult one and I didn't feel like writing about much - I was glum. Really down on myself. So I thought maybe the best thing to do was jot down what I do when I get low, and if it stops one of you from feeling rubbish then hey - that's enough for me. Something I try to remember: Every day might not be good, but there is something good in every day. I hope, if you're low, that you feel better soon.

1. Be kind to yourself - Whatever that means. Be gentle. Do yoga if you find it calms you, wrap up in your duvet and marathon The Vampire Diaries on Netflix (this was my Sunday last week), have a long bath. Listen to your own body and go with what it needs. During these times, particularly if what's gotten you low is an argument with a friend or loved one, you have to be your own cheerleader, even if that feels impossible. 

2. Patience - You're not going to feel better in five minutes. Maybe not five hours, or even five days. If you keep pressuring yourself to 'fix things' or 'feel normal', you're only going to send yourself on a  downward spiral. There's something to be said for gaining perspective and trying to think positively, but all things in time. Faking happy will feel even worse than just letting yourself be.

3. Inspire yourself - Everyone knows the little things that pick them up. For me, it's usually covered in chocolate... But on a serious note, there couldn't be a more perfect time to surround yourself with what you love, what makes your heart happy. I'm not saying put pen to paper and write the next great novel, but getting in touch with your creative side can bring back a feeling of contentment and, in many ways, be a much needed release.

4. Look at the bigger picture - The likelihood is this moment is a tiny blip in the grand scheme of your life. Not to minimize anyone's suffering, but hopefully the saying rings true - nothing lasts forever. J and I have a joke, and he always seems to say it to me at the right time when I'm sad - he says: 'Will she ever laugh again?' and it always makes me giggle. We've both been so down that we thought we might never laugh again, and we've all been there - sometimes you need someone else, or life, or circumstance to remind you that this too shall pass.

5. Let go - There will come a moment when you're ready to let go - your anger, sadness, emptiness - whatever you're feeling... For me, it was anger. I had to realize that surrendering that emotion didn't make me a 'weak' person or didn't mean I had 'lost', I was just ready to feel happy again. I was ready to feel like myself again. I hate to get all Alanis Morrisette on you but sometimes the only way out is through, and you just have to give yourself the time and space to experience the emotion. Then breathe deep, and start again.

I hope the next time you're down, the feeling passes quickly for you and you can remember that you're not alone in this.

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  1. Sorry to hear you've been feeling down, hope you feel better soon. You're so right, we all have these times and sometimes it's best just to hunker down and get through it rather than be too hard on yourself and expect to feel alright straight away. Sending hugs and good vibes your way xx

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    1. Thanks so much Siobhan <3 It always seems like such a fleeting moment when you look back at it, but at the time it feels like the feeling will last forever! I'm feeling much better now :) T xx

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  2. This is great and I think everyone has these moments, me more often! :) Everything can get to much especially when blogging as it's hard work! Its always great to step back and take a breather xx

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    1. Definitely - I hope you're doing good now though Jenny and the next time you're having one of these moments, I hope it's a very fleeting one! T xx

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  3. Tres good advice, gal friend. Lately, I've definitely been channeling the great Aaliyah and remembering that 'if at first you don't succeed, pick yourself up and try again' and look hey, it's truth.

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    1. She was the ultimate babe. I think you might have inspired me to have a little marathon of her music ;) Cheers babes! T xx

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